I’ve recently read ‘The Road Less Traveled’ by M. Scott Peck. This is a great read and one you should certainly pick up! It is was amazing. It wasn’t the read I thought it was going to be. I think I imagined it being a book about self discovery and life journeys and overcoming obstacles. It was more about our thoughts as it relates to physiology and mental health.
One of the concepts in the book is he discussed in his book is discipline, specifically delaying gratification. The concept was so powerful and has stuck with me since reading the book. He stated that:
“Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with.”
That one sentence and the remaining section of the book stuck with me. Lately, I’ve been repeating, ‘delayed gratification,’ to myself and moving forward with things that I either don’t want to do or things that simply make me uncomfortable.
The idea is that by taking on the painful things you more peace with pleasure. I think about this with all aspects of life. Financially, emotionally, in relationships, when shopping, when getting things done, everything.
Pay the bills I don’t want to pay first and enjoy the fun shopping with ease knowing how much I have for leisure. Getting the pain of being disappointed or sad out of the way so that I can enjoy love, peace, and gratitude in good spirits.
Or with dating, delaying certain pleasures-being in love, making love, being in a relationship-for the initial ‘pains’ that come with dating-getting to know someone, understanding what you like and don’t like about the other person, limiting your time with them, keep somewhat of a distance with your relationship goals and expectations-all so that you can enjoy the relationship and love with the right person and at the perfect time (here I go with my hopeless romance, lol).
If you can’t tell by my recent blogs, I’ve been working on being more productive and consistent with moving forward with my goals and the way I handle life. Being emotionally stable is just as important, if not more important, than being physically healthy. I think I’ve always been able to handle life, tough talks, hard things, deaths, growth, discomfort, all while keeping a smile on my face.
Learning about the concept of ‘delayed gratification,’ has helped me take a deep breath and get it over with. No matter what it is. I even used it for swimming, the water was cooler than I expected and I said, ‘delayed gratification,’ and got right into the water. Literally everything. So, I thought I would share this concept and book with you guys. It is a great read and has lots of amazing concepts to help understand life better.